My Thoughts On Marriage

     There is a natural, and God-given instinct for every individual to desire and crave love and acceptance.  For this reason, it is natural for us to seek out friendships and relationships.  All around the world, people are marrying every moment of everyday.  It is natural to want to marry; to want to have someone to talk to and to wake up to every day.  I believe this is why so many people marry; and why, when someone feels they should have a spouse and doesn’t, is frustrated and uneasy with life.

     I also believe that God has given each one of us dreams and passions.  Some say, “our calling.”  Everyone of us feels it.  This need and drive to do what we are passionate about.  There are so many people who, in their lifetime, do not follow their dreams and pursue their passions, and thus feel as though they missed out on life.  It is something WE HAVE to do.

     So what happens when 2 people come together, with a need to be loved and accepted, but also have 2 very very different dreams?  They get married, are happy for awhile….. until they notice their passions once again.  For some marriages, it is impossible for a couple to pursue both persons passions.  For some, each spouse does not see eye to eye with the dreams and passions, and thus, either the dream or the marriage is squashed….. sometimes both.

     From my perspective and experience in both my marriage, and the relationships which existed before my marriage, true happiness (aside from belief in God), comes from 2 spouses sharing dreams and passions.

     I believe that God intended for a marriage to come together, and for each spouse to BECOME ONE in everything - included passions.  I think God intended for spouses to walk through life fulfilling each other’s dreams, building each other up, encouraging each other to do whatever it is they need to do, (as long as it does not hinder their marriage or relationship with God).

     Jeremy and I have many friends who have entered into marriages already, and I pray that they can follow through in their marriages in this way.  But, we also have friends who have not married yet, but long to.  For them I pray that they would first strengthen their relationship with God, and find what the calling is for their lives.  I think it is only then that we are healthy enough to be able to enter into a marriage relationship.  I believe that if this step is skipped, the end result will be broken marriages, hearts, and/or dreams.